Personal Thoughts

25 Days of Thanksgiving

I have days when I get really, really down.  Usually it’s prompted when I see my old friends out and about, having fun, and knowing that my husband and I are never invited anymore because we have kids.  I’d be lying if I said that didn’t hurt.  A lot.  To the point where I cry over it and feel more lonely that I should.  I have faith that one day in the future, I’ll have good friends again.  God’s timing is always perfect, I keep reminding myself of that.  Having no friends means that I am able to focus 100% on my family and that is what I hold on to.  It’s hard not to feel like a horrible person though when it feels like no one wants to be around you.  I know that isn’t true, but that’s where my mind tries to take me sometimes.

Yes, this is my pity post.  And it makes me feel extremely vulnerable to share it with the world, but I do have a point.  From now on, when I start feeling down, I’m going to make a “thankful list” to show myself exactly how blessed I am.  I may not have any friends, but I do have:

  • an amazing husband.  He reminds me that it isn’t me and that our choice to have children was totally worth losing our friends along the way (even though we both admittedly thought we could have kids and our friends… how wrong we were)
  • our children.  The best “things” that have ever happened to me and my proudest accomplishments.
  • my parents.  They’ve always been my very best friends and I wouldn’t change that for anything.
  • our home.  A place to decorate, a kitchen to cook comforting meals in, a tub to clean my dirty children after a day of playing.
  • my blog.  I know that may seem silly, but it’s my outlet and I’ve met some great friends through it.  I wish we could all go out for dinner and drinks, for real!
  • lots of time to spend with my family, lots of clothes to wash, dirty dishes to clean, crafts to make, cookies to bake, and best of all, bunches of hugs & kiss to give out & receive
  • nothing beats hearing “I love you, mom.”  Nothing in this world.

So, there is my simple and somewhat predictable “thankful list” for today.  I hope that making a list isn’t necessary too often.  I will continue to lean on my faith that God’s timing is always perfect and that he will send me the right people to call  my friends and to share my life with.

Every day during the month of November, I’ll be sharing something I’m thankful for on Facebook.  I think it will be a great exercise to show thankfulness daily!  Once a week, I’ll round-up my Facebook status updates in a blog post.

What are YOU thankful for today?


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  • I’m super thankful for happy, healthy children. I’m thankful that I have a job when so many do not. I’m thankful that I have a husband who loves me. I’m thankful that I have a wonderful group of blogger friends who are amazing. I’m thankful I have a wonderful group of real-life friends who are crazy like me.

    I think I’m just thankful for my life!

  • lots of great things to be thankful for. And I’m totally with you on the blog being something to be thankful for. I have one great friend and a couple good friends from high school still (though we don’t get together much) but the rest of my friends are blogging friends!!

  • If they were really your friends, they would find time for you and the kids. You are all still very young and one day you will ALL have kids. We totally love every minute of your company . Bryson and Bella make my day! They are both very happy and will make me laugh so much. You are the best Mom.

  • I think that is a great list and you have included the most important things. There are different stages of life and sometimes getting rid of old friends is a good idea. Now, it is time to find some new friends that are also married and have children of their own. You are in a different area of your life so take advantage of it and be proud of who you are and what you do have.

  • Great first list for things to be thankful for. A shame about your friends. I enjoy your blog and reading about your family…I think those people are totally missing out! You have a beautiful family and great things to share with those who listen. It truly is their loss. is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to